Self Analysis

-  How Knowing Who You Are Can Help You Find Him  -

You meet a guy. You think, "This is IT. He's my soulmate. My true love. The man I'll spend the rest of my life with." But before you can say "wake up and smell reality" you find out that he drives you crazy and you want out NOW!

Sound familiar? If this is a familiar pattern in your dating life, wouldn't you like to do something to break the cycle? If you'd really like to meet a soulmate, then this article may very well change you life. 

Knowing YOURSELF is the first step in choosing a partner who's right for you. You can start with some basics that define you - where you were born, your educational background, your religion, your interests, hobbies, etc. Do this thoughtfully and take as much time as you need.

Expand the list with your personality traits. Are you outgoing? Analytical? Do you see the cup as half full (optimist) or half empty (pessimist). What are your professional and economic goals? What are the foundations of your philosophy of life? 

Now, create a profile of your perfect partner using the same criteria. Be sure to differentiate between "Gotta have it" (drug and disease-free, for example) "Would like to have it" (tall, dark and handsome) and "Doesn't really matter" (political affiliation). 

Don't know where to start? No problem. The lists below should help you zero in on you... and HIM!

I like passive entertainment

* Music 
* Painting 
* Sculpture and architecture 
* Movies 
* Theatre 
* Reading 
* Video 

I like active entertainment

* Dance
* Swimming 
* Jogging 
* Walking 
* Horseback riding 
* Tennis 
* Motorcycling 
* Skiing
* Bicycling 

I like hobbies and pastimes

* Antiques
* Computer science 
* Do-it-yourself 
* Travel 
* Photography and/or video. 
* Sewing 
* Cooking 
* Embroidery and/or knitting 
* Gambling 

These things are important to me

* Freedom 
* Love 
* Business Success 
* Financial Freedom
* Creativity 
* Prestige 
* Family 
* A sense of commitment to people and ideals 
* Religion or Spirituality 

What I want in my partner

* Sincerity 
* Refinement
* Moderation 
* Cheerfulness 
* Creative or artistic 
* Generosity of spirit
* Kind hard 
* Public-spirited 
* Courageous 

Deal breakers

* Possessive or jealous 
* Lazy 
* A workaholic 
* Religious extremist
* Too money-conscious 
* Overbearing

Now that you've defined who you are and what you're looking for, the next step is to put it into words.

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