6 Secrets To A Killer Personal AD 

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#1 - HONESTY ABOVE ALL

The best well to put the nail in the coffin of a budding relationship is to be dishonest. It's fine to present yourself as an actor/model with a home in Ibiza if you're hooking up for a one-night stand. But, if you're looking for something long term, you can be sure that your lies will be uncovered sooner or later. And when they are, you can say good-bye to someone who might have been perfect.

Be truthful and avoid the pain, heartache, disappointment and separation caused by dishonesty. Open yourself to incredible happiness by allowing others to love you as you are, for who you are. 

#2 - IF YOU WANT 'EM, GRAB 'EM

A 'grabber' is an attention-getting headline that makes your personal ad stand out from the competition and demand to be read. 

Here's a great method for figuring out what works: What attracts YOUR attention to ads when you're surfing a site? Usually, the ads that get noticed are clear, clever, direct and a bit personal. So for your headline, the key is: What can you say about yourself in a single sentence which makes you irresistible to the opposite sex? 

If you truly seek love and long-term commitment, comments here about length, size and shape of 'physical' attributes are a turn-off to men seeking partners of intellectual, emotional, and spiritual substance. If you're well-endowed with a fabulous sense of humor, tell the world about ALL your attributes. Just do it gracefully. 

#3 - BE SPECIFIC

You know who you are and what you want... so why mince words. Be specific about values held and sought, in addition to naming hobbies and interests. Just about everyone loves "a moonlit walk" and "hot sex." What you need to focus on are the things that are unique to you.

In this situation, it's an instance of Do Ask and Do Tell. If you know your soulmate is a Buddhist, say so. And Monsieur Le Cutie in Paris may not respond when he notes you live in Rio, unless you mention that geographic location is no barrier because you have your own Lear jet. 

#4 - BE REALISTIC

If you're looking for someone "perfect," you're going to be looking for a long time. Try to focus on the attributes that are most important to you in another person. 

#5 - BE POSITIVE

Let your natural exuberance and zest for life shine through in your writing. Negativity repels. You may elicit an offer from a counselling service if you project a woebegone, or suicidal attitude, but you probably won't attract your soulmate. 

#6 - BEST FOOT FORWARD

Chances are you wouldn't show up on a first date unwashed and unkempt, would you? You'd try to look your best and most appealing. Likewise, if your spelling skills are somewhat lacking, consult a dictionary before submitting an ad so riddled with errors that it turns off anyone who reads it.

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